Discussion on Eliminating Inferiority Psychology of Physically Disabled Persons
Inferiority is a complex negative consciousness in which people feel ashamed, shy, timid or even discouraged as they believe that they are inferior to others. People with low self-esteem often cannot see their own strengths and advantages. They always feel that they are inferior to others, pessimistic and disappointed, and often look for reasonable reasons for their inaction, thus falling into laziness and doing nothing. Therefore, inferiority complex is a huge obstacle to personal progress. Many disabled people are sensitive, suspicious, isolated and lonely, unwilling to face reality, afraid to endure setbacks, and have a strong inferiority complex. They are limited by their own physical defects and their lives are extremely inconvenient. If the shadow of inferiority continues to follow closely, then they will not be able to talk about development or success. Therefore, it can be said that if the cause of disabled people wants to develop and if disabled people want to succeed and improve their production and living conditions, they must eliminate their inferiority complex. To eliminate inferiority complex, it is necessary to first understand the root cause of inferiority complex.
So what are the causes of low self-esteem for disabled people? We can roughly summarize it into the following points:
1. Lack of successful experience. Everyone has self-awareness and needs affirmation of self-worth. They hope that everything they do will succeed and be proud of success and feel ashamed of failure. Disabled people will lag behind others in certain aspects of their abilities due to their physical defects. When they see the joy of others succeeding, they sink deeper into the pain of failure. The accumulation of many failed experiences has caused them to lose courage and confidence, thinking that they are inferior to others, thus losing courage and confidence.
2. Wrong attitudes of families toward people with disabilities. It can be said that the inferiority complex of many disabled people has a lot to do with their families. Some parents lack confidence in their disabled children, family members in their disabled brothers and sisters, or one spouse in their disabled spouse, and regard them as a burden. They regard their defects as annoying and lack a fair evaluation of the disabled. Under the influence of this concept, the disabled also believe that their disability is a sad and unworthy thing, which unknowingly forms their weak and timid character. Others do the opposite to the disabled in the family. They regard the disabled, especially the disabled children, as having physical defects. They regard it as their own fault, feel guilty towards the disabled, or think that the disabled are pitiful, so they take care of everything and do everything instead, which makes the disabled have strong dependence, poor communication skills and fear of interacting with others; some people are unable to face the reality and think that having a disabled person in the family is a very shameful thing, so they do not communicate with the disabled, and even confine the disabled at home to avoid the ridicule of others. This artificially deprives the disabled of the opportunity to interact and exercise with others, making the disabled more and more closed and lonely.
3. Social indifference and discrimination. Disabled people are inherently more fragile, sensitive, and suspicious than normal people, and they will inevitably encounter some ridicule, even teasing, and bullying during interactions. This phenomenon is easy to happen around children with disabilities. Children's young minds cannot bear the cynicism of others, so children who have experienced this kind of experience generally dare not interact with others. For adults with disabilities, social indifference and discrimination are the biggest reasons for their low self-esteem. Although with the advancement of social civilization, ridiculing or bullying disabled people has become rare, discrimination and indifference are still common. Regarding the employment of disabled people, many enterprises and institutions do not look down on disabled people in essence, but they have closed the door to disabled people in employment. In terms of education, schools suitable for disabled people are not widely available, causing many disabled people to lose their right to education. Many universities and technical secondary schools even do not recruit disabled students. If the cultural and technological quality of disabled people cannot be improved, they will not be able to compete with normal people, which will deepen their inferiority. In social life, there are very few activities for disabled people to participate in. Disabled people lack a platform for communication, and they have nowhere to vent and talk about their pent-up worries. They can let themselves fall into a closed and lonely world... The more society ignores and ignores disabled people, the less able they are to participate in society. The so-called self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance, and self-improvement can only be reduced to empty words, and what is dragged behind them can only be long shadows of inferiority.
Since the formation of the inferiority complex of disabled people is inevitably related to themselves, their families, and society, we must explore ways for disabled people to eliminate their inferiority complex from these aspects.
1. What society should do
(1) Improve the environment and give true love. Society is the general environment, society comes first
Thoughts are highly contagious. Therefore, we should widely publicize humanitarian ideas, let the whole society care, respect, understand and help disabled people, vigorously develop welfare services, and help disabled people find employment. Only by allowing disabled people to participate in social life, enjoy the right to work, and create wealth for society can disabled people feel that their lives are meaningful, and can they gradually eliminate their inferiority complex, continue to make progress, and create more social wealth.
(2) Develop education and improve quality. It should be said that the disabled group
The overall quality of the disabled is not high, but this cannot be the responsibility of the disabled themselves. The lack of special education schools and special facilities has caused many disabled people to lose the opportunity to receive education. What's more, many disabled families are from poor families and cannot afford expensive education fees. Quite a few colleges and universities have closed their doors to disabled students. Disabled people cannot enjoy the right to education in a substantial sense, and naturally cannot improve their own quality. Compared with normal people, they certainly have no competitive ability. Can disabled people not feel inferior after repeated failures?
(3) Carry out activities and promote exchanges. Society should provide communication for people with disabilities
The platform allows disabled people to have the opportunity to interact with others, so as not to fall into loneliness and self-isolation. Disabled communities, colorful cultural and sports activities for disabled people, vocational skills competitions and other competitions can all allow disabled people to communicate and encourage each other. The role models played by successful disabled people are a good motivation for disabled people to increase their self-confidence.
2. What families should do
(1) Sincerely care for people with disabilities, treat people with disabilities with an optimistic and correct attitude, and let
The disabled person realizes that his relatives love him and supports him. Let the disabled person know that accepting help from others is also a sign of courage. It also lets the disabled person know that his family needs him and that being valued and needed is a reflection of personal value. This can make the disabled person feel that his existence is meaningful and can well enhance the self-confidence of the disabled person.
(2) Explore potential and cultivate the self-confidence of disabled people. As a family, with
People with disabilities have more exposure. Therefore, we should be good at discovering the strengths of people with disabilities and cultivating them. For example, you may lose your hearing, but you may be sensitive to colors and can draw; you may lose your sight, but you may have musical talent; your legs may be inconvenient, but you may sing well. Sometimes when God closes one door, he may open another. Allowing disabled people to gain a sense of accomplishment in their strengths and increasing pleasant emotional experiences will gradually build up their self-confidence.
(3) Help disabled people establish a correct view of judgment and face their physical defects.
Learn to affirm yourself. In families with disabled people, the family members should treat the disability of the disabled person correctly. They should neither regard the disabled person as a burden nor deliberately regard the disabled person as someone who needs to be cared for everywhere. It is necessary to guide disabled people to face their disabilities calmly and make a fair and comprehensive evaluation of themselves, thereby cultivating the self-confidence of disabled people.
3. “To untie the bell, it is necessary to tie the bell.” To eliminate the inferiority complex of the disabled, the key is to rely on the disabled themselves.
Disabled Americans Ed. Roberts contracted polio at the age of fourteen and was paralyzed from the neck down. He was in a wheelchair and relied on a breathing machine to stay alive. But when he was twenty years old, he finally realized that self-pity would not help. He began to educate and influence the public non-stop. After fifteen years of persistence, society finally paid attention to the rights of disabled people. Today's barrier-free facilities and the participation of disabled people in social management are largely due to his efforts at that time. If disabled people want to transcend themselves and develop themselves, they must eliminate their inferiority complex.
For people with disabilities, you can consider the following points to eliminate low self-esteem:
1. Throw away the burden of physical and mental defects. People with disabilities cannot see themselves through "tinted glasses", let alone others. Disabled people should not think, "I am disabled, I can't do anything, I can only need help from others." If you deny yourself first, you will have no motivation to work hard, and you will definitely not be able to do things well. Don’t isolate yourself by thinking that others look down on you, discriminate against people with disabilities, or are unwilling to ask for help from others. Always say to yourself: "I can do it!" Don't compare yourself with others as a whole, but compare from a certain aspect, and show your confidence in the comparison.
2. Take positive action and start with small goals. Daydreaming and blaming will not help. When you recognize your inferiority complex, acknowledge its existence and take action to make up for it. Divide big goals into small goals. Don't force them to do it immediately. Start with easy things first. After gaining confidence, do more complicated things so that you can achieve them step by step.
3. Abandon a strong sense of honor. Generally speaking, people with a strong inferiority complex often have excessively high self-esteem. They have too much psychological baggage and are afraid that they will be looked down upon by others if they fail, so they cannot go into battle lightly. On the one hand, a strong sense of honor will prompt people to work hard, but once they fail, they will fall into deep disappointment and suffer a greater inner blow. When disabled people do something, don’t put too much emphasis on success, throw away vanity, and participation is the best.
4. Help others as much as possible. Disabled people should not just wait for help from others, but take the initiative to help others, gain recognition of their own value in helping others, and enjoy the joy of helping others.
5. Give thanks. Gratitude is the wisdom in life. The great disabled scientist Hawking said: "One of my fingers can still move, and my brain can still think; I have ideals that I will pursue throughout my life, I have relatives and friends who love me and I love you, and by the way, I also have a grateful heart..."